The Psychology of Winning: 10 Qualities of a Total Winner
Quality 1: Positive self-expectancy
"Life is a self fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."
Positive self-expectancy is the most identifiable of a top achieving and winning human being, it is also pure and simple optimism, real enthusiasm for everything you do.
This means being positive all the time, every single day, if you are a positive person you will get more than what you are expecting, because you are doing your best. Confidence is also a quality that is related to this quality, a winner always expects to win even if the situation is tough because he/she is confident, and has a positive mind.
Negativity will never lead you to win in life, that is why we all have to apply this quality in life. Remember to always have hope and a deep unbreakable faith because those qualities will help you to build a positive mind, we all are capable to achieve amazing thing in life but keep in mind that positivist, faith and enthusiasm will lead you to win as well as succeed in life.
Quality 2: Positive Self- Motivation
"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."
Motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals in life, feel more fulfilled and improve overall quality of life.
A person without motivation has no purpose in life, because motivation is what leads you to accomplish your goals that is why we all should be optimistic.
In order to maintain an optimistic outlook, set mental and emotional boundaries we need to avoid negative thoughts. When negative or self-defeating thoughts enter your mind, move them out quickly and that way you will always maintain an optimistic mind.
For example if you want to do tryouts for a sport, do it, be optimistic and have motivation all the time, that way you will good results. Do not worry if you make a mistake, we all are humans and we all make mistakes in life, remember that mistakes are feedback that will help us to be better. Making mistakes in one way we can learn and improve in our life. There is no one that has never made a mistake.
Put a smile on your face everyday, and that smile, that motivation can change completely your whole day.
Quality 3: Positive Self- Image
True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.
Self- Image is how you perceive yourself. It is also how you picture yourself, as a physical body and an individual. When you think about yourself, the feeling and images that come up are really important because a healthy body image means that you see yourself the way you really are, and that you feel good in your own skin. Self- image also involves how you feel about strengths, weaknesses and abilities. The way you perceive yourself defines you as a person, because the thoughts you have about yourself can make you increase or decrease your confidence. When you love yourself, there is never going to be anything that will make you change the way you see yourself, and perhaps there will be people who will want to bring you down but your confidence about yourself will never change. Everyone must love the way they are, not matter what because if you do not love yourself how do you expect others to love you? if you do not trust yourself about your abilities and skills, how do you expect others to trust you?. Remember that people will see you, just like the way you see yourself, but if sometimes they do not perceive you that way, you should never change the way you perceive yourself because that is what matters most. True winners are confident and view themselves as competent and smart, that is why they always win, because they have confidence and nobody can bring them down, even in the difficult times.
Quality 4: Positive Self- Direction
You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.
Self-direction empowers people to design supports based on their unique strengths and needs. Winning self- direction is setting smart goals for your future, and it is also having a purpose in life. Everyone should know what direction they are taking in their life, and if a person does not know this, is because that person does not have goals for the future. The secret to positive self- direction is in establishing clearly defined goals and then writing them down so you can remember them all the time, this also will help you to see if you have achieved this goal or if your goal is in process. Having a direction will help you have motivation in your life, for example if you are trying to get a new skill, do not give up and remember what's your direction, remember where're you going and why you started it. True winners know where they are going, that is one of the reasons they always succeed, because they know what their purpose is and they are also pretty sure about what they want to accomplish in life.
Quality 5: Positive Self-control
Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals.
Self- control is the quality to manage your actions, feeling and emotions. This also means delaying short term gratification in favor of long term outcomes. Self - control involves resisting temptations and habits under undermine self control. For instance, if you really desire to be healthier in your life because that is one of your goals, the requirement is that you have to change some habits that you have when it comes to eating, you should develop this manner, self control because this manner will be really helpful for you. Sometimes it could be really hard to develop this quality because we all have to be conscious that applying this quality will lead us to achieve our goals. Self control must be part of our life, because resisting temptations and control our temper and actions will bring us many outcomes to our life.
Quality 6: Positive Self- Discipline
You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.
Self- Discipline is a pattern of behavior where you choose to do what you know you should do, instead of doing what you want to do. This also includes having the personal initiative to get started something and not wasting your time doing things that are not going to give you good results. For example if you want to be healthier and have a better lifestyle, in order to accomplish your goal you have to put a lot of effort, do exercise in the morning or in the afternoon, that will help you a lot. Sometimes people think that things will happen overnight and in the moment they want that to happen, but the reality is that every single thing in life requires effort, and discipline. If you put effort in every single thing you do, you can be sure you will get good things in your life, because self- discipline is also about avoiding temptations because you know what is best for you. Always keep in mind that positive self-discipline will lead you to great things, but also to have a successful life, because things might seem difficult but with self- discipline nothing is impossible.
Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem
Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.
Positive self- esteem means having confidence in one's own abilities and worth. A person with high self-esteem will always be confident in herself/himself because he or she knows how to recognize that there are many ways to continue and develop. This quality is really important because it will always help us to get good outcomes as well as succeeding in life.
Total winners are positive, and powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe. Winners are always positive, and motivated that is why they are always winning because they believe in themselves and in their skills and abilities, when you are confident in yourself you do not let your fears get in your way, and you accept new challenges that life brings you. Self- esteem is a quality that everyone must apply, for example if you do not how to solve math problems and you are failing math class, just try try and try, seek for help and be confident in yourself that one day you will able to accomplish what you desire, "a good grade in math class". If you say "I can't" you will never be able to do what you want because you are keeping your mind in a negative status, there are many strategies and methods you can apply in order to achieve what you want. Life will be tough, but it's up to you to keep your mind positive, try new things and if something is hard for you it's fine, because nobody is perfect and you do not need to be perfect, at least try and be committed to try until you achieve it.
Self-esteem is also about loving yourself as well as knowing your worth. We are humans and humans are not perfect because nothing is perfect in life, love yourself, care about yourself, and do not feel the need to be perfect because you are enough just the way you are.
Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension
Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don’t get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now.
Self- dimension takes the Psychology of Winning beyond the self and into the universe. This means that total winners live in the present, allowing the universe to work in the future. Sometimes we care about the present or we live always remembering the mistakes we made in the past and we forget to enjoy and work in the present time. It is fine if you are always remembering good things that you past left in your life, but remember that there is a future but in order to have a good future you must be focused on your present. Give your best right now, at this present time, work hard and do not wait until the end because if you do not work hard this present time, how are you going to have good outcomes in your future? just handle the stuff is going on today, do not care about your past but do not worry about your future because you are the only one who chooses the future you want to have.
Apply this everywhere, for instance maybe your first year in high school you had bad grades, and you say that you want to improve at the end of your four years of high school. Do not worry about your first year, now you know you are capable to improve, you should focused on this year and all your classes you have right now, so you are able to finish this year with good grades, do not waste you time thinking negatively, and just focused on today because tomorrow you will be better.
Quality 9: Positive Self- Awareness
Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.
Self- Awareness is a conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings and desires. It also allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your behavior. Total winners are aware of their power, they understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination, this means that total winners are aware of everything, how they behave, and what are their reactions in difficulties. Self- awareness will help you to create an opportunity to make changes in your behavior and beliefs. If you are aware of how you act in hard times, but you dislike that attitude you have, you must develop self-awareness and you can be sure this change in metal state will alter your emotions and increase your emotional intelligence which is important for you in order to achieve overall success. Becoming self-aware is an early step in the creation of the life that you want. It helps you pinpoint what your passions and emotions are, and how your personality can help you in life. Apply this quality, and take some time to think about yourself, think about how other perceive you and what can you do to change that impression they have of you. Once you are aware of your thoughts, emotions and behavior you will be able to make changes in the direction of your future.
Quality 10: Positive Action
Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other.
Positive action means to do and act in order to get a particular result. A person who wants to succeed in life takes positive action in every single thing he/she does because he or she visualizes its success in life. Sometimes we wish, think or dream goals that we want but we forget to take action. Nothing will come easily in life, and it takes a lot of courage to take action, that is why total winners are successful in life, because they do not stay in their comfort zone they like changes and challenges but most of all they like taking action in every obstacle or goal they have. They know that thinking or dreaming will not overcome their fears but action will, it is normal when you are afraid of failure but remember that your future depends on what you do today. If you work hard today, all the work you did will be paid off at the end, all the courage you had to take positive action will be worthy it and you will become a successful person.
This quality could be applied everywhere, for example at school. If you want to have a career, first of all finish high school, work hard every single year of high school because that counts a lot in your future, your grades and all the credits you have in high school will be a good background for your future in college, remember that the distance between dreams and reality is called action.
